Monday, September 27, 2010

Hair Damage and The Shampoo Fetish

No I didn't forget about this blog, I've just been stupid busy with school, club meetings, trips to New York, etc., and I haven't had much time to write. I see I have some more followers, so maybe that'll give me some incentive.

Today . . . . er . . . tonight, I'm going to discuss how some of the techniques used in the shampoo fetish community damage a woman's hair. I've been meaning to discuss this for a while actually.

1) Overwashing. Not that I don't like it when a guy lathers me for a long time with lots of shampoo, but it does dry out the hair and strip it of its natural oils (yes, you need some oil to keep it smooth and shiny). And most women's hair doesn't need to be washed every day. So if you want her hair to stay great, keep the mild washing sessions to every other day, and don't do the extreme shampoo sessions more than once or twice a week.

2) Piling. Piling the hair on top of the head generates frizz and causes hair to get tangled (and untangling hair is a damaging process that often leads to broken hair), so again, keep this to a minimum. Also, the only hair that needs to be shampooed is the crown, unless the woman uses a lot of product throughout her hair.

Also, don't leave shampoo sitting in the hair. It's drying and unnecessary.

To combat these, make sure you use a good amount of conditioner after the shampoo. If you're the one taking pleasure in the activity, maybe thank her for letting you shampoo her with a bottle of intensive leave-in conditioner, or even a professional salon procedure if you can afford it.

I'm not saying you should only shampoo the "healthy way" all the time - healthy being only using a little bit of organic (not containing lathering agents) shampoo on the crown - but do have some respect for the health of her hair. Don't insist on washing her hair every day. After all, many women take pride on their crowning glory.


  1. Hi thanks for another great post!

    I'd love to speak more with you (have some advice to ask... from your female perspective, so rare in this world) but i don't see anyway to send private emails or messages? I don't want to post my email here either, but could you send me a message through this form ( ) and we can PM that way?

  2. Hey, just wanted to thank you for another great post... having a female perspective in the lather community is fantastic...

    Actually I'd like to get some advice for just that reason, about how to introduce lather into a relationship! But I'd like to do it by private message or email... can you make a post here:

    then I will be able to send you a private message?